The pattern of life, is growing. We need to keep re-inventing our lives in order to grow. The heart of growing is understanding the process: endings-transitions-beginnings.
But in order to get new beginnings, we need endings. "Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it" George Santayans.
STAGES OF CHANGE
While going through the stages or ages of life, we discover new parts of ourselves. Letting go is difficult. The only alternative is not growing. In achieving growth you will experience predictable sequences.
While going through the stages or ages of life, we discover new parts of ourselves. Letting go is difficult. The only alternative is not growing. In achieving growth you will experience predictable sequences.
Change follows this sequence of stages.
Life Plateaus:
Life is running smoothly. Everything seems in good working order. You are satisfied with your life. Many of us chose to stay in our comfort zone and stop growing. We wear masks, we shut down, we experience inner death.
Life is running smoothly. Everything seems in good working order. You are satisfied with your life. Many of us chose to stay in our comfort zone and stop growing. We wear masks, we shut down, we experience inner death.
Triggering Events:
Everything suddenly changes. We are knocked off balance by events which we did not expect. The most common, being death, divorce, health changes, to name a few. These events act as a wake-up calls for us.
Everything suddenly changes. We are knocked off balance by events which we did not expect. The most common, being death, divorce, health changes, to name a few. These events act as a wake-up calls for us.
Limbo (ending- transitions-beginnings):
To insulate yourself from the shock of abrupt change, you can go into a suspended animation or limbo. You withdraw emotionally. Limbo is a feeling of knowing what your life will not be in the future, and not knowing what it is going to be like.
To insulate yourself from the shock of abrupt change, you can go into a suspended animation or limbo. You withdraw emotionally. Limbo is a feeling of knowing what your life will not be in the future, and not knowing what it is going to be like.
Taking Shock:
Here you look at solutions. You know that your answer is out there somewhere, one just has to go out and find it. You are excited one day and depressed the next. You look for solutions to solve your dilemma and make you ultimately happy. Who is more successful: the unhappy person who doesn't make waves or the person who searches for expression in life and boldly keeps going?
Here you look at solutions. You know that your answer is out there somewhere, one just has to go out and find it. You are excited one day and depressed the next. You look for solutions to solve your dilemma and make you ultimately happy. Who is more successful: the unhappy person who doesn't make waves or the person who searches for expression in life and boldly keeps going?
Taking Charge:
Searching has drained you, you seek range relief. It is time to take charge, to make a decision and take or pay attention to other aspects of your life (those you have been neglecting).
Searching has drained you, you seek range relief. It is time to take charge, to make a decision and take or pay attention to other aspects of your life (those you have been neglecting).
You start realising that a perfect solution doesn't exist, taht life is a series of changes. As a result, one become more expecting of ones experiences. Now you will make decisions with some self-confidence.
THE POWER OF PURPOSE
People without a sense to of purpose lack focus in life. Focus adds power to actions. Everyone wants to know why they are alive and what their contribution to life is. The purpose of life is not to be happy but rather to be useful, honourable, compassionate and to make a difference.
People without a sense to of purpose lack focus in life. Focus adds power to actions. Everyone wants to know why they are alive and what their contribution to life is. The purpose of life is not to be happy but rather to be useful, honourable, compassionate and to make a difference.
We are too busy hurrying to achieve external recognition for our worth. But one has life organised around activities that gain approval.
Finding your way in the world without a sense of meaning and purpose, is like sailing and not knowing where you are sailing to (no wind will ever be favourable). Living without a sense of direction or purpose often means striving for results that make you feel worthless after making them.
PURPOSE IS NECESSARY FOR INSPIRED PERFORMANCE
In organisations today people want to make a difference but some feel as though they don't and see themselves as victims of external forces beyond their control. Power is created when people see their organisations' purpose as an extension of their personal purpose. Purpose is exemplified in a profound level of team-work.
In organisations today people want to make a difference but some feel as though they don't and see themselves as victims of external forces beyond their control. Power is created when people see their organisations' purpose as an extension of their personal purpose. Purpose is exemplified in a profound level of team-work.
Many are haunted by their past experiences of being in purposeless teams, yet some have been in those that bring out the best in us.
Purpose embodies our highest values and aspirations. It inspires us to reach for what could be, enables us to clarify and realise what we want, independent of what seems possible. Purpose can't be ordered into being. It must be discovered. We need to encourage people to rediscover themselves at various ages.
PURPOSE PROVIDES FOCUS
There in no general agreement on what life's purpose is, but those who are healthiest in body and soul seem to have said themselves that they are living for a purpose. It doesn't only serve as a reason for living, but it becomes a lodestar - the point at which one focuses their everyday energise.
There in no general agreement on what life's purpose is, but those who are healthiest in body and soul seem to have said themselves that they are living for a purpose. It doesn't only serve as a reason for living, but it becomes a lodestar - the point at which one focuses their everyday energise.
"This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose, recognised by yourself as a mighty one; one being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap; the being a force of nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances, complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy" George Bernard Shaw
Remember that anyone who has a why to live can bear almost every how.
